Relationships are at the heart of all that happens in our lives.

The most important relationship you have is the relationship with yourself

The nature of your relationship with yourself is reflected in how you treat yourself emotionally, physically, socially, sexually, behaviourally, intellectually and spiritually.

Relationship counselling is about realising again what you know deep down: that what another person says or does tells you only about them and what you say or do reveals only how you feel about yourself.

When we get our feelings hurt as children we bury that knowledge quite unconsciously because to speak it might cause more upset. Consequently as adults we are not always conscious of what is going on within us so we project out our feelings onto another in the hope that someone mature will notice our distress and helps us make sense of it.

When you become conscious of who you really are, you feel full rather than empty and life feels different.Your relationships become easy becasue youre at ease with yourself. All the parts of yourself that you hid away begin to emerge e.g. your passion, your voice, your assertiveness, your courage, your motivation, your ability to relax, your belief in yourself, your intelligence in all areas and you begin to realsie that the things you find attractive in another were within you all along.

Your sense of self deepens and becomes more solid; your relationships with others deepens; you begin to bring your fullness, rather than your emptyness, to yourself and to all your other relationships.

Our belief is that human beings are too powerful and intelligent to get damaged or develop disorders; what makes more sense is that we find solutions to coping with hurt by by creating responses to threats from the defences of those we are in relationship with. That response may involve creating a way of hiding your voice or your power or your ability to love but it is always a wise creation and it is always done to enable us to survive.

The same intelligence and creativty that created our protective behaviours will enable us to allow the real us to emerge as we get to know ourselves.

We tend not to give advice, because as you will find, your own intelligence will give you your own answers when you give yourself the space and safety to become conscious.

We will share our own experiences and information on psychology with you but our key role is to provide psychological holding.